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Phoenix Huber
37 min readSep 1, 2021
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Hello, everyone! I’m Phoenix, a transgender vegan writer. I love to joyfully grow and to practice compassion for all beings. Here are my shares so far.

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

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1. SELF-GROWTH AND ACCEPTANCE

A. Feel Good About Who and Where You Are

a. Celebrate your flaws
b. Focus on the positive
c. Appreciate your “enemies”
d. Heal from bullying
e. Love your unique physical beauty
f. Turn regret into doing your best
g. Turn embarrassment into connection
h. Embrace autistic traits

B. Live Fully in the Reality You Create

i. Find freedom from technology addiction
j. Let TV shows inspire your life
k. Let video games inspire your life

C. General Self-Growth

l. Personify things to grow playfully
m. The power of great counseling or coaching
n. Learn to concentrate
o. Sustainable goal achievement
p. Unconventional thinkers who helped me
q. Other unorthodox self-help strategies
r. Better moods

D. Embark on a Journey of Creative Sharing

r. Discover your courage for being seen
s. Outgrow perfectionism

2. HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS

A. Social interaction 101… 404?… for awkward aliens

a. Open up by simply loving people
b. Communication strategy for an anxious visionary
c. Encouragement for a sensitive person to engage with criticism
d. Support for being an introvert
e. Socializing in the digital age

~ Relationships (friendly and professional) ~

f. Cope with rejection and have happy boundaries
g. Taste true friendship
h. Step into leadership when you don’t feel ready

~ Veggie soup for the unique single’s soul (romantic) ~

i. Online dating and soulmate attraction experiments
j. Feel ready and open for love (with self-love)

3. ALTRUISM & VEGANISM

~ Be kind and make the world merrier ~

a. Being more altruistic
b. When we cry for those who are suffering and worry we aren’t doing enough
c. Effective altruism and suffering-focused ethics

~ Include nonhuman animals in our compassion ~

d. How to think like an anti-speciesist
e. Explore your relationship with animals, and take responsibility
f. Motivation to live vegan or be an animal ally
g. Veganism and moral courage
h. Issues facing specific types of animals
i. Intersections of human and nonhuman issues
j. Vegan controversies and unpopular opinions

~ Stay well and stay lighthearted, animal lovers ~

k. Plant-based health and vegan food celebration
l. Mindful, magical eating
m. Animal rights satire & vegan comedy

~ Inspiration for animal advocates ~

n. My personal adventures as an animal advocate
o. Animal activists who inspired me
p. A few assorted ways of helping animals
q. Being a vegan writer

4. GENDER EUPHORIA

~ Transgender articles ~

a. Resilience through transphobia, and forgiveness
b. What being trans means to me
c. Gender pronouns
d. Growing into a happier, healthier trans girl

~ Nuanced social justice ~

e. Critiques of rigid, intolerant justice
f. LGBTQ controversies
g. Other justice controversies
h. Personal experiences that made me rethink things
i. Articles on race
j. Apologies and self-reflection to be a better ally

5. SEXUALITY STORIES

a. Sex-positivity and masturbation celebration
b. Moaning and groaning about my blah sex life
c. Heal from sexual trauma and disappointment
d. Sexual restraint and responsibility
e. Kink and fetish
f. Flirtatious humor

6. DAY-IN-THE-LIFE DIARY POSTS

a. Daily wisdom and gratitude
b. Daily vegan life (food focus)
c. Daily vegan life (animals and people)
d. Journaling prompts
e. Action prompts and dares
f. Mental health days (sharing the struggle)
g. Zany experiments with chakras
h. Relationship hopes, relationship hiccups
i. A day in the life of a writer
j. Accountability through a blog/diary

7. MY 100-DAY SOCIAL COURAGE CHALLENGE

a. Preparation for the challenge
b. General lessons learned
c. Online social courage
d. Courage in dating
e. Creative courage
f. Financial courage

8. MISCELLANEOUS FUN

a. Family stories
b. Celebration of culture
c. Trivia game
d. Philosophy, happiness, and questions about life
e. Beauty and style
f. Fiction (playwriting)
g. Language learning
h. A reflection on COVID-19 misinformation
i. Things I wrote years ago before I was on Medium
j. Hannah Montana parody song for struggling writers
k. My “trophy cabinet” of standout articles

1. SELF-GROWTH AND ACCEPTANCE

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A. Feel Good About Who and Where You Are

“I love you just the way you are.” I always wanted to be told this. And to feel that way about myself. Over time, I found techniques that helped me. A few basic ideas I follow are:

The more I forgive and admire other people, the easier it is to love myself.

Every flaw has a flip side (a strength). Every mistake I make can be turned into an opportunity for honesty and connection with others.

I focus on what I DO want. I say what I LOVE.

May these articles prime you to feel more positive towards yourself, people, and life!

a. Celebrate your flaws

I Made a List of All My Flaws — and I Felt Amazing: Describe your character defects in a beautifully honest way.

7 Things I’ve Embraced Being Terrible At

Here is a List of All My Flaws: I wrote down all my weaknesses, but in a way that helped me find strength. Now, the list is yours.

b. Focus on the positive

I’m Grateful for Our Self-Discipline: We could celebrate the things we do a whole lot more.

3 Keys to a Cheerful Outlook on Life: It’s possible to be realistic AND jolly

Count the Kindness From Guys on Dating Sites: I’m grateful for every gentlemanly gesture

c. Appreciate your “enemies”

33 Giddy Compliments of the First Trump-Biden Debate: The Political Positivity Fairy makes her debut

Why I Am an “Ajerkist”: Who doesn’t believe anyone’s a jerk. (on being nonjudgmental towards those who do harm)

d. Heal from bullying

The Problem With “I Was Bullied”: When I took responsibility, I found healing

How Nat’s Humor Taught Me to Make Fun of Myself: I transformed hurt into hilarious human connection (a thank-you to CommunityChannel)

I Pretended to Be Asexual When I Was a Teen: And it taught me these 8 lessons about Pride.

e. Love our unique physical beauty

Isabel’s “I Quit” Video is Exactly Why I Deleted My Joke About Ryan Reynolds Being Hot: I don’t want to treat you so different based on looks, fame, or success

I’m 28, And These Older Female Role Models Are Helping Me Embrace Aging

Fat Acceptance and Beautiful Messages in Dumplin’ (2018): “A swimsuit body is a body with a swimsuit on it.”

My Embarrassing Lifelong Obsession With Blond Hair: I judged myself and everyone I knew based on our hair colors.

How to Love Being in Your Late Twenties: 27 is my favorite number these days

Beauty Is a Gift You Give to Others: Not something you hoard for yourself (short and sweet)

f. Turn regret into doing your best

My College Experience Was “Not Worth It.” How I Turned Regret Into Post-Grad Prosperity

Don’t Doom Your Projects From the Start; Begin With a Better Mindset Than Last Time: Please learn from my personal and professional mistakes

g. Turn embarrassment into connection

My Awkward Interview With an Obnoxiously Non-Conventional Girl: Her name is Phoenix and she thinks cockroaches are cute

How NOT to Live in Your Car: 10 confessions of a professional Toyota Corolla bumette

People Thought I Was a Deranged Ding-a-Ling and Stopped Talking to Me: It’s not as good as reality TV, but I hope my socially inept stories make you feel better about yourself

Confessions of a Terribly Absentminded Transgender Girl: How would you save a clown version of Cinderella?

h. Embrace autistic traits

I May Never Find Out if I’m Autistic, or How Else to Explain My Brain: What I do know is I’m unique, and it fascinates me to know how other unique minds work

B. Live Fully in the Reality You Create

When I was young, it seemed difficult to create the kind of life I longed to live. The easiest thing to do was just escape into an online game, watch a show, or seek instant gratification.

But the years passed me by, and so did my dreams.

Now 4 years “sober” from Neopets, my relationship with technology and with being alive continues to get stronger. I share my passion for living addiction-free, and for being your own real-life hero.

i. Free yourself from technology addiction

Why I No Longer Listen to Music, Watch Shows, or Play Games By Myself: Entertainment has been my default state. My new default state? Human connection.

Quitting These 3 Things is a Life Hack for the Easily Distracted: Why I don’t like music, TV shows, or even video games anymore

11 Ways to Watch TV and Netflix More Consciously: It all started with my Carmen Sandiego addiction…

I Made Peace With Mr. Television: AKA my worst frenemy, the talking box of brain-killing DOOM! (humorous tips for coexisting in a household that watches TV)

j. Let TV shows inspire your life

Nervous to Start Writing Fiction? Begin by Critiquing Your Favorite Stories: My favorite stories are problematic. Facing that helped me prep to write my novel.

My Little Pony Taught Me a Major Key to Self-Confidence

Turning Netflix Addiction into a Source of Personal Growth: Carmen Sandiego made me seriously rethink my life.

k. Let video games inspire your life

How I Stopped Cheating at Online Games and Started Living True to Myself: First, I became honest in the game. Then, I quit and pursued my real-life dreams.

Neopets Forged my Animal Activism: How gaming can lead to making real-world impacts

C. General Self-Growth

Self-help doesn’t have to be one-size-fits-all. Here I share my honest struggles, and the wacky approaches that seem to have helped me. I invite you to reflect on what works for YOU.

I’ve had chats with $2 bills. I follow strict rules that could seem over-the-top, but it liberated me from my bad habits. I’m distractible and I make too many lists, but I’ve used my quirks to my advantage as I slowly become a more grounded dreamer and achiever.

l. Personify things to grow playfully

Convinced Money is the Devil’s Paper? Use it to Explore YOUR Values: Dear Ben Franklin, I hope to finally have an abundant money mindset (balancing the injustices of capitalism with a determination to make one’s personal relationship with money a positive one)

Writer’s Block? Try Interviewing Your Muse: I personified my creativity to see what it had to say

How to Get Guidance From Your Cheesy Pun Alter Egos: Self-help for silly, imaginative, and batpoop crazy adults

Play the Personification Game: You’ll discover a new creative way to improve your life.

m. The power of great counseling or coaching

I Wanted to Be a Transgender Tennis Star: Lorrin didn’t dismiss my crazy dream. She listened. (how a co-active life coach healed my soul)

I Multiplied My Confidence Using the Lefkoe Method: I was a very shy and depressed teen. Nothing helped… until something did.

n. Learn to concentrate

A 100-Year-Old Concentration Book Teaches Me Focus: A heartfelt thank-you to Theron Q. Dumont (summary of The Power of Concentration)

How NOT to Be Super Indecisive About Everything You Do: 7 things I learned from taking forever to get a new iPhone

How to Focus When You’re as All-Over-the-Place as Blueberries on the Floor: Can you renew your concentration every 30 seconds? (informal journal of my ADHD struggles and how I came up with a 30-second rule)

o. Sustainable goal achievement

I Wanted the World, So I Asked for 3 Lines at a Time: An increasingly simple poem about setting shorter goals

Little Progress With Your Bucket List? Here’s What Got Me on the Move: The 52 tiny dares that made my life magic again

How To Stop Setting Delusional Goals: 5 paradigm shifts to be a more grounded achiever

6 Times I Literally Changed My Mind to Change My Life: Look back on those moments you finally made a breakthrough — can you repeat them?

p. Unconventional thinkers who helped me

What Happens if You Invest Only in the Companies You Love? The man famous for “Rejection Therapy” says love can conquer the stock market

6 Concepts a Top Co-Explorer of Personal Growth Gifted Me: My favorite blogger forever (Steve Pavlina) inspired me to be disgustingly authentic.

4 Genius Concepts I Learned From Sam Ovens Even Though I Bought His Program and Never Used It: We don’t have to agree to be transformed and inspired.

q. Other unorthodox self-help strategies

I’ve Been Writing Down Everything I Do and Sending the Reports to Friends: It sounds excessive, but it’s the perfect habit for someone like me

Something to Consider the Next Time You Feel Like a Bag of Bricks: Start a “When was the last time I _____?” list.

I Used My Success as a Vegan to Commit to a Daily Routine in 2021: Sometimes, strict rules help — and you can use past wins to plot your future excellence.

Growing a List of Things I Never Do Makes Me Stronger With Time: Why saying “nevermore” has been the easiest way to change my life — and it works

Say No To Chlorhexidine & Yes To These Safe, Effective, Natural Mouthwash Alternatives

r. Better moods

I Learned to Lighten Up My Bad Moods in 2 Steps That Take Only Seconds: This method is called the “Occurring” Process and I thank my old teacher for it

D. Embark on a Journey of Creative sharing

I first wrote in a diary when I was 5. People told me I was good at writing. It was a major passion, but only in private. I was too shy to share anything!

It took me till I was 27 to finally get off the ground as a writer. Now, I’ve posted over 250 articles. I’m thrilled, because being a public writer is normal now. Having eyeballs on my essays feels like no big deal.

How can I help accelerate YOUR creative journey?

r. Discover your courage for being seen

Having Someone Read My Diary Was My Worst Fear. Now, I Share My Diary For Fun

Scared Sh*tless to Check Your Comments? Here Are 6 Ideas to Make It a Friendly Process: Enchanted the Rainbow Unicorn Owl is here to help

I Told a Whole Facebook Group My Struggles as a Writer and I Humiliated Myself: When was the last time you opened up and forced yourself to grow?

Why Fear of Being Seen Paralyzes Us From Sharing: And how to become comfortable baring your soul

s. Outgrow perfectionism

What If Your Favorite Artist Had Lost Themself to Perfectionism? Give yourself the freedom to create imperfectly that you would wish upon your idol

How to Liberate Yourself With a Creative Courage Bucket List: And why I wrote this article without looking at the screen

11 Reasons to Be a Worse Writer on Purpose: ‘Imperfectionism’ is my word of the year

Get in the Writing Flow with a Ridiculous Character: How Ducky the Dinosaur helps my perfectionism

2. HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS

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~ Social interaction 101… 404?… for awkward aliens ~

Social grace did not come naturally for me. I thank my lucky stars for basic communication books, like How to Win Friends and Influence People.

On top of that, I’ve had to deal with being extremely introverted, more sensitive than most folks, and vegan in a non-vegan world.

Here are some of my survival notes.

a. Open up by simply loving people a lot

Dogs Are My Friendliness Role Models: Make socializing simple

How to Stay Openhearted When You Want to Hide: By mentally appreciating everyone you meet

I Was Feeling Joyless. Here’s How I Got Cheerful and Lovey-Dovey Again. Phoenix the Effusive Pollyanna is Back!

b. Communication strategy for an anxious visionary

4 Ways Conflict-Avoidant People Can Disagree Agreeably: Maybe sending my meat-eating relative ‘humane’ slaughter footage wasn’t such a good idea

3 Ways to Confidently Share Your Hot-Button Opinions: Even if you’re agreeable and hate rocking the boat

I Used to Be Part of an Angry Vegan Mob: I learned my lesson. I switched to consistently complimentary, compassionate communication.

c. Encouragement for a sensitive person to engage with criticism

Allow Yourself to Read Negative Feedback and See What Happens: Turn your cycle of avoidance into a playful ritual of courage

Remember When People Pushed Your Buttons and You Thanked Them Later: This might help us share boldly

Would You Binge-Read Your Worst Enemy’s Blog? Reading transgender critics was difficult, but how I approached it helped. Now, I can’t wait for my next Binge-Read Day!

d. Support for being an introvert

As a 28-Year-Old Ultra Introvert, I’m Closer Than Ever to Making Peace With Family Time: I felt misunderstood over how solitary I am. Here’s how I got to a better place.

8 Ways This Neurotic Introvert Survived Family Vacation: Relax, because people just want to love you and you’re going to be okay

I’m Asocial and COVID-19 Turned My Life Into an Introvert’s Paradise: 5 excuses I now use for being my hermit self — and I’ve never been happier (humorous)

e. Socializing in the digital age

The Digital Minimalist Mindset I’m Using to Be a Better Friend: When I read your text, it’s like you’re sitting right beside me (imagine your phone or computer as 3D space)

~ Relationships (friendly and professional) ~

Want to know two of my biggest struggles in relationships?

First, I hate rejection (on either end). I wish I could be everybody’s best friend!

Second, I’ve wanted to participate. To contribute. To figure out how to be a leader at something useful. All my wisdom and potential felt locked away inside me.

These articles were a response to those struggles.

f. Cope with rejection and have happy boundaries

Feel Guilty About Rejecting People? Let’s Look at This a Different Way: These 8 mantras empower me to be honest and say yes or no.

The 3 Times I Was Grateful for Ghosting: Sometimes a ghost’s goodbye hurts less than harsh words

My Friendships Ended in Awkwardness, But I Found a Sweet Solution: I can master how I think and feel about people

Sometimes It’s Good to Reject Your Rejectors: Clinging to people who don’t like you is like keeping moldy oranges in your fruit basket — chuck ’em in the compost!

g. Taste true friendship

My Celebrity Crushes Were a Missed Opportunity to Love Real Friends: I want to love my soul family so much more than I ever loved internet stars

How to Be Freakishly Fulfilled in Your Friendships: Be prepared to make some people furious (be disgustingly yourself, but in ways that serve others, as a strategy for forming better friendships)

Before You Break Up With All Your Friends, Read This: We can be like trees — growing old roots and new branches.

h. Step into leadership when you don’t feel ready

6 Reasons NOT to Feel Horrible for Charging for Your Services: I trust you to make your money in a beautiful way

The Diary of a Girl Who Got a 52nd Wind to Be a Life Coach: What dream did you put on pause that you’re ready to come back to?

My Best Boss Made Me Hopeful About Becoming a Leader: 3 ways his management skills shone and inspired me

I Failed as a Wannabe Life Coach: And I realized these 10 things

~ Veggie soup for the unique single’s soul (romantic) ~

I’m the last person you should go to for dating advice. I’ve never even had a partner.

But over the years of investigating what might be stopping me, I’ve learned a lot about myself. I understand better now what I’m looking for. How to love myself first. And how to enjoy a more relaxed, lighthearted dating journey.

Wherever you are at in your love life, I hope what I write can nourish your unique soul!

i. Online dating and soulmate attraction experiments

I’m Waiting to Find a Vegan Best Friend and Romantic Partner: I’ll build a life alone till I meet a guy who shares my love for animals

Video Chat App “Filter Off” Is Hosting Vegan Speed Dating. Here’s My Review

5 Reasons I Swiped Right on Every Guy: And what happened when I did

j. Feel ready and open for love (with self-love)

How I Grew as a Person by Emailing My Future Partner: Writing “Dear Future Boyfriend” emails prepared me for love

10 Ways This Single Lady Finally Felt Ready for Love: Number 6 — Be proud of the ways you “pleasure” yourself

Perpetual Singles, What If You Were Ready for Your Future Partner Now? Even if you’re ticklish, poorly-dressed, or have plenty of other problems.

Are You Being Objectified, or Are You Guarded Around Love? Let people like your for your uniqueness.

3. ALTRUISM & VEGANISM

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~ Be kind and make the world merrier ~

Everything we do is to make the world better.

The articles below are to help you reflect on your greater goals in life, and aim to do the most good you can. As Buddhist author Matthieu Ricard would know, Happiness and Altruism can go hand in hand!

I sometimes write about effective altruism (EA) and suffering-focused ethics. These philosophies try to combine heart with logic & data, and to focus on preventing suffering, especially the worst forms of it.

a. Being more altruistic

If I Were More Altruistic, I’d Do These 11 Things Differently: Envision a more loving and attentive version of yourself

Life Feel Meaningless? Maybe you’re not doing enough to help those in need. If so, your compassion can change that.

A Poem About Being Happy While Helping the World: We take our time to make joy and purpose the same life

b. When we cry for those who are suffering and worry we aren’t doing enough

Am I a Bad Citizen for Not Wanting to Return to Work? I wish to make a real contribution, and I wish to be happy

Our Grief is Real — and It Extends Far Beyond Our Personal Lives: You may feel ecological, humanitarian, or animal sorrow that cuts deep

When You’re Desperate to Make a Difference: And you don’t know your superpower (short, and a personal favorite!)

c. Effective altruism and suffering-focused ethics

Animal Suffering is Urgent. How Best to Solve It is Uncertain. How do we deal with this paradox? Let’s start by being curious…

It’s Too Easy for People to Turn Away From Others’ Suffering: Here are 9 reasons why — and how to be brave

Reading About Extreme Pain is Making Me a Better Person: Any now I found a book that is helping me focus on preventing suffering

I’m Excited for More People to Catch on to Effective Altruism: Because I feel ineffective and selfish sometimes. Positive peer pressure can help us do more good.

~ Include nonhuman animals in our compassion ~

These articles advocate that we respect nonhuman animals. Let’s avoid causing unnecessary suffering.

A pig, sparrow, and snake are all sentient individuals. In an ideal world, I can’t see why they deserve any less protection from harm than I do. Modern humans have a lot of power to make a difference for animals, but animals can do nothing to stop us from hurting them. Only we can hold ourselves accountable.

I hope these articles serve as a gentle challenge for vegans and non-vegans alike. Just as our world has opened up to include LGBTQ people like me, we can all be allies to animals as well.

d. How to think like an anti-speciesist

6 Things People Say That Show Our Hidden Speciesism: Animals are sentient individuals. We can get way better at treating them as such.

People Eating Animals Isn’t Actually Like Lions Eating Animals: What this vegan thinks of lions

e. Explore your relationship with animals, and take responsibility

What if Animals Left You a Review?: I hope to be a 5-star human

This Tortoise is Not a Symbol: Animals are unique beings (a critique of popular concepts that portray animals of a given species as all the same)

How is Your Relationship With Animals? What Would You Change? I went from innocent bliss, to guilt and sorrow, to now an informed delight.

What Does Duolingo’s Heartwarming Portrayal of Animals Suggest About the Future of Humanity? Will we finally live up to the cuteness of family-friendly animal stories?

How to Forgive Yourself for Hurting Animals: I wish I could live like a queen without harming a fly (embrace feelings of guilt; turn them into compassion in action)

f. Motivation to live vegan or be an animal ally

How to Set a Powerful Intention for Animal Advocacy: Defenders of animals, tap into your “why” for helping them

Want to Be Team Vegan, But Your Motivation is Up and Down? Try motivating yourself with the gentleness of a grazing bunny.

6 Shifts in Perspective That Helped Me Love Being a Passionate Vegan: I wanted a better world for animals. I started by making my own worldview more effective.

“Can I Be Healthy as a Vegan?” Versus “HOW Can I Be Healthy as a Vegan?”: I was determined to thrive on a slaughter-free diet, so I asked how

g. Veganism and moral courage

7 Ways I’ve Been a Fatally Imperfect Vegan: In case you thought I was better than you or something… (the courage to be imperfect)

Veganism is About Equality, but It Makes Us Face Our Feelings of Inferiority: If we can process what we feel with compassion, we’ll make more progress for all beings

Going Plant-Based is the Best Thing I’ve Ever Done: And now I know hard feelings are good. They’re the first step to the alchemy of compassion.

Have a Gratitude Feast That Ruffles Your Feathers: To feel thankful, get out of your comfort zone

h. Issues facing specific types of animals

6 Reasons We Are Biased Not To Care About Fish (inspired by the science book What a Fish Knows by Jonathan Balcombe)

23 Ways Wild Animals Suffer: 23 reasons why I’m grateful to be a modern human. 23 reasons to care.

“Double Trouble” is an Adorable Name for a Cat: Sadly, her life was lost to a useless animal experiment.

What if We Farmed Chickens and Pigs Like We Raise Dogs and Cats?: 4 ways life would be wildly different for those we eat

6 Reasons I’m Happy for Animals Who Are NOT in Zoos: Today I scrubbed the floor; then I scrubbed my brain with reading (note: this is a diary entry so it meanders into different topics, but you can skip to the part where I give a nuanced, still-learning take on zoos)

i. Intersections of human and nonhuman issues

My Loved Ones Passed Away From Cancer. Why I Still Don’t Support Animal Testing

Maybe Humans Are Helpless Like Animals When We Act With Cruelty: How I think about free will & determinism in the fight for justice

j. Vegan controversies and unpopular opinions

Do Conservative Vegans Deserve a Place in Animal Rights?: This may be an unpopular opinion among my left-wing peers

What Animal Would a Vegan Eat?: I wanted to hate meat, but embracing my bacon-loving alter ego could be good for the animals (could annoy fellow vegans, but it’s about collaborating with where people are at and taking tough questions seriously)

2 Reasons Why “They” is the Best Animal Pronoun: Every species of animal is astonishingly unique — including their sexes

Could Erectile Dysfunction Be Equivalent to the #1 Killer of American Men?: I was shocked. We need to have a conversation about how diet affects penile and holistic health.

I Thought About My Throat Chakra and it Helped Me Listen to Ex-Vegans: When I accept experiences that differ from mine, I have an easier time speaking up for animals (note: this is a diary entry so it meanders into different topics, but you can skip the chakra stuff if you want)

~ Stay well and stay lighthearted, animal lovers ~

It is one thing to agree that animals deserve protection. To put our ideals into action, let’s enjoy the journey and make it sustainable.

Blog posts about plant-based health, and enjoying each meal, are below. If you just came for the laughs, check out the animal rights satire & vegan comedy!

k. Plant-based health and vegan food celebration

How to Know if Lots of Fruit Is Right For You: People are shocked by how much fruit I eat, but it has been amazing for my health

A Quirky, Lazy Vegan’s 6-Day Meal Plan & Shopping List: Unique, sometimes bizarre ways I’ve eaten and food-shopped on a plant-based diet

4 Fun Foods People Don’t Always Know About Before They Go Plant-Based: #3. Cauliflower milk. Just kidding! There is no cauliflower milk. (Hopefully.)

9 Exceptionally Healthy Foods For My 2021 Nutritional Makeover

3 Simply Habits I’ve Used to Get in More Leafy Greens

I Gave Up Sugar A Year Ago. Here’s How You Can Still Enjoy Sweet Vegan Life San Sugar.

l. Mindful, magical eating

I’m Using Each Meal to Playfully, Witchily Create My Best Life: Is it vegan food magic, or just Harry Potter geekery?

What Mindful Eating Has to Do With Veganism and Other Food Justice Movements: It’s easier to be present when I’m at peace with where my supper comes from

How Food Magic Makes Everything More Fun: Imagine your supper is a world peace spell.

My Millet Lentil Vegetable Stew (mildly spicy!): A recipe. A poem. A scoop of life.

m. Animal rights satire & vegan comedy

The Land Before Time Brainwashed Me Into Being A Vegan: Parents, don’t let your kids be friends with “Littlefoot the Longneck”

There is Only One Type of “Animal Testing” That I Support: It involves you sticking chemicals in my eyes while calling me princess

I Messed Up the Slaughterhouse Protest, Gosh Darn It: With my big mouth and a little tongue and cheek

I Was Psychic for 28 Years and I Predicted Which Stars Went Vegan: How come every celebrity I idolized as a child went plant-based? Because I saw it coming with my Thistle Ball!

Frightening Confessions of a Vegan Sociopath: I fooled the world with my ‘helping animals’ act

~ Inspiration for animal advocates ~

Maybe you’re more than just a Good Samaritan who’s giving veganism a chance. You’re a passionate animal lover. You’ve spent a lot of your life trying to help creatures, or you aspire to. If so, you might get a kick out of my funny stories and odes to activists who inspired me.

I’ll share some of the different things I’ve done to advocate for animals so far. Writing about animal issues on Medium has been a big step too, so I’ve included blog posts about that journey!

n. My personal adventures as an animal advocate

I Lived In My Car While Volunteering For Animals Through a National Nonprofit

I Was One of the Top Players on Neopets. How I Quit Gaming & Became an Animal Advocate

Cooking Plant-Based Sausages in the Meat Section Was My Day Job: This job taught me the power of friendliness across differences

7 Confessions of an Awkward Animal Activist: I made hilarious mistakes, but my passion led me to a good place (a longer read, it tells the story of my animal activism journey from age 7 to 27)

o. Animal activists who inspired me

These 4 Vegan Activists I Met in My Twenties Inform Who I am Becoming: #3. This man was silent an entire year to inspire compassion for defenseless animals

4 Courageous Animal Allies Who Inspired Me Extremely as a Vegan Teen: Thanks to these kind souls, I started to find myself as an advocate for animals

Book Review: 3 of My Favorite Essays From Voices For Animal Liberation

p. A few assorted ways of helping animals

I’m Excited to Join Challenge 22, a Support Group for Going Vegan: I’m volunteering as a mentor for this friendly online community

How Science is Making it Possible to Eat and Pet a Chicken at the Same Time: Meat grown from cells is bringing my childhood dream to life

5 Ways to Help Animals From Home: Even if you hate getting covered in dog hair

q. Being a vegan writer

I Write About Veganism to Help People Feel Less Alone: Compassion loves company

I Wrote an Article for Animals Every Day for 30 Days: 5 takeaways from a creative and compassionate January

A Transgender Animal Defender Muses About Authenticity Versus Views: What to do when the topic you really want to write about gets fewer eyeballs

How to Write Like a Vegan Activist: I’m ending my 5 excuses for being quiet about my vegan ethics

4. GENDER EUPHORIA

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When I was 11, the discrimination I faced at school made me crave equality. Why were people judged based on how they looked? Why should the bodies and brains we were born with determine how well we are treated?

As a transgender youth, I felt hopelessly misunderstood by society. It would hurt to think that I, too, might be bigoted or misunderstanding towards other marginalized groups.

That’s why I titled this section Gender Euphoria. We all deserve to feel joyful about being the unique person we are. Wealth euphoria, racial euphoria, ability euphoria, and aging happily ever after are all equally important. I hope to be a happy and helpful piece of the puzzle.

~ Transgender articles ~

I love sharing my personal stories that give a taste of transgender life. Transgender people are not a monolith, but I’m glad I can say my piece.

As a grateful reader of other trans writers and writers on gender, I know how much our stories validate one another. I write my articles for all of you, of any gender.

I express forgiveness towards discrimination and disagreements. I don’t know if I’m supposed to hand out “ally cookies,” but if I could bake, I would totally do that!

a. Resilience through transphobia, and forgiveness

Here’s How I Read “Anti-Transgender” Stuff and Why I Enjoy It: Quillette’s latest essay didn’t stop me from being trans

My Teacher’s Trans Fat Slide Made a Trans Woman Joke: I hope he stopped using that joke and didn’t get in trouble. Yes, I forgive him completely.

I Found My Safe Space as a Trans Woman, and I Couldn’t Be Happier: My safe space included room to be challenged

I’m a Trans Woman and I Read Lots of Anti-Transgender Stuff: It only made me stronger and at peace with my trans womanhood

I’m Trans and I Wish the Criticism of J.K. Rowling Was Gentler: 9 reasons she’s still a good person and we should be nice to her

b. What being trans means to me

4 Gender Confessions People Confided in a Trans Girl: You being yourself is a magnet for people’s stories

They Didn’t Know I Was a Transgender Girl: 6 funny things folks said to me when they had no freaking clue about my gender (my #1 most widely read Medium article)

Physical Transformation is Not the Heart of Being Trans: My relationships transitioned — and that made the most difference

Every Transgender Person Deserves a Day to Celebrate Their Rebirth: My name used to be “Joshua.” People gave too much faith to my birth certificate.

During My Gender Transition, I Also Transitioned to a Kinder Lifestyle (parallels between my gender and vegan journeys)

c. Gender pronouns

How to Ask for a Person’s Gender Pronouns: Plus, how to make peace with people wondering what gender you are

They/Them Pronouns Deserve Just as Much Respect as Ours: This trans woman asks that you listen not only to HER, but also to THEM

d. Growing into a happier, healthier trans girl

A Transgender Girl’s 7 Mental Health Confessions: I’m a happy gal, but it hasn’t been all sunshine and daffodils (it tells a lot of my gender life story)

I’m Treating My Transgender Body to Yoga Videos in My Room: We all have reasons we get self-conscious in a live class. Don’t let that stop you.

~ Nuanced social justice ~

I have always been liberal when it comes to social justice. Yet, I needed to break free from political groupthink. I longed to be a free thinker.

Believe every woman. Cancel all hate. Misogyny is everywhere, but discrimination against men doesn’t exist. All murderers should rot, and everyone who is struggling needs to see a therapist. These are the sorts of things I felt like I was “supposed” to agree with but couldn’t.

Some of my articles fit cleanly with intersectional feminism. In other articles, I come across as more centrist and contrarian. I hope our compassionate free thought and speech can serve the highest good.

I apologize for things I get wrong. I have a lot to learn, and I will strive to be a better ally.

e. Critiques of rigid, intolerant justice

Intersectional Feminism Rocks, BUT Here are 8 Points It Often Leave Out: The secret essay this trans girl wrote when she felt suffocated by social justice

3 Liberal Things That Annoy Me as a Liberal: I hate to admit it, but conservatives were right

I’m Protesting Cancel Culture by Being Honest About Why You Should Boycott Me: It’s time to cancel MYSELF before anybody else does

Even if an Insult Is Politically Correct, I Still Don’t Want to Use It: 6 not-so-nice names I try to avoid calling anyone

Compassionate Free Speech Could Help Us Stop Trump: Because things being ‘too PC’ tempts people to support him (the state of U.S. politics in September 2020)

f. LGBTQ controversies

Here Is My Unusual Trans Woman Take on the Controversy Surrounding Us in Sports: Competition is never fair. This point of view made me give up tennis and do something entirely different.

A Family Member Posted, “I Do NOT Support LGBTQ” on Social Media: I’m queer but her words bother me less than some of my allies — is that bad?

g. Other justice controversies

Have You Ever Touched Someone by Accident? What if You Got Reported? A slip-up at the trampoline park made this girl ponder #MeToo

I Feel So Bad for Convicted Murderers Even Though I’m Not “Supposed” To: Lying, guilt, loss of reputation, and incarceration are traumatic human experiences

6 Reasons Why I Don’t Wish to See a Therapist: Ever feel pressure to use BetterHelp but don’t want to? Let’s trade notes.

h. Personal experiences that made me rethink things

The Word ‘Houseless’ Made Me Rethink Perceptions of Homeless People: I was without a house when I lived in my car. I still don’t know what it’s like to have neither.

The “Creepy” Old Man at the Laundromat: He became un-creepy once I peeled back my prejudice.

i. Articles on race

The Two Times I Was as Fragile as a Wine Glass About Race: I journaled about it to help myself build some white racial stamina.

I Watched a Chat Between Two Ex-Black Lives Matter Fans: Here’s what I learned… but I’ll need your help to process this

My White Fragility is on the Verge of Explosion, Please Forgive Me: I’m as white as Frosty the Snowman trying desperately hard to be chill about race (humor)

4 Black or Brown Philosophers Who Opened My Mind About Racial Healing: There are many approaches to racial justice. Listen diversely, and find what resonates with you.

j. Apologies and self-reflection to be a better ally

I’m Trying to Be Better About #MeToo: I’m sorry I wasn’t more empathetic towards survivors of abuse

The Diary of a White Writer Figuring Out How to Be Better About Race: I want to be sensitive and supportive about racial justice, like I am about LGBTQ

5. SEXUALITY STORIES

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As a kid, I was ashamed of self-pleasure. Queerphobia hurt me deeply. Frankly, I felt I would rather die than have anyone know I had sexual thoughts or crushes.

Then as an adult, I was held back by sexual assault and embarrassing experiences in dating.

I invite you to grow with me on my healing journey. Telling my stories under my real name seems out there, but the shame I used to live in gave me a wild hunger. I hunger to bare my truth to the world. I hunger to inspire more wholeness and happiness in others who have struggled.

a. Sex-positivity and masturbation celebration

On International Masturbation Eve, I Gave Myself the Best Self-Pleasure of My Life: 14 things I did to make my solo sex special

5 Ways a Masturbation Accountability Buddy is Changing My Life: We track our sexual habits and give support. Jilling off has never felt more hopeful.

Sense8 Turned Me On to Threesome and So Much More: The joys I gained from watching this sensual & sex-positive show

How I Playfully, Sexually Celebrated My First 3 Chakras to Kick Off 2021: I learned that I really like size play, fooling around while wet, and being an evil princess who turns good

b. Moaning and groaning about my blah sex life

On Days Like This, I Wish My Sexuality Would Disappear: I honestly believe I’d be happier and a better person… but I hope someone proves me wrong

I Can’t Stop Fantasizing About My Former Dates and Bygone Crushes: But at least I can breathe more love into the incessant memories

c. Heal from sexual trauma and disappointment

4 of the Many Beautiful Survivors Who Give Me Hope for the Future: Someday we shouldn’t have to say #MeToo anymore

5 Ways ASMR Boyfriend Videos Made Me More Affectionate: “You know me; I’m just full of compliments for you”

3 Regrets the Sexual Consent Fairy Healed: Her magic changed my worst sexual memories

I Feel Compassion for My Sexual Assaulter: Forgiveness is like a green smoothie for my soul

d. Sexual restraint and responsibility

As a 24/7 Sexual, How Do I Be Honest and Honorable? Much of what I do has hidden sexual motivations, and I know I’m not alone

Do You Have Your Consent to Masturbate? I now practice “self-consent” to be sexually happier

3 Times I Almost “Got Off” Inappropriately at My Computer but Made a Better Choice: Online voyeurism hurt my self-respect. Here’s how I got it back.

Perfect Your Response to Seeing Someone Attractive: Be proud of your sexuality

e. Kink and fetish

A Tribute to Guys Who Have Their Boxers Sticking Out: My fetish made you extra sexy to me, but you’re beautiful wearing anything

I Threw Like a Trans Girl and Hit the Referee in the Nuts: I had an evil curse and no man’s jewels were safe from it

The Story of a Femme Who Was Infatuated with Snapbacks: Was I content to lust after guys’ baseball caps forever?

f. Flirtatious humor

I Have a Crush on Jake From State Farm: I will not stop showering him with gifts until I get the real deal

9 Preposterous Pick-Up Lines to Use on a Vegan: Only slightly more original than, “If you were a fruit, you’d be a fineapple”

I’m Crazy in Love With My ASMR Boyfriend and I Think He’ll Propose: His name is Ricky and he gives me tingles

6 Advantages of Having a Make-Believe Boyfriend: Actual romantic partners are, like, SO pre-coronavirus

Roses Are Red, Boogers Are Green: This love poem is so awful, it will make you scream (a satirical dating ad that is actually sorta real…)

6. DAY-IN-THE-LIFE DIARY POSTS

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As an agnostic child, “Dear Diary” was my religion. It pained me if I let a day pass by without journaling! After I broke through as a writer in 2020, I even took my obsession to a new level… I made my diary public.

I did it for the accountability of telling you my daily thoughts and use of time. I did it for the conviction that my imperfect day was worth celebrating, and so is yours.

If raw, meandering writing is actually your style, the full collection is in dated order at Love Everyone. This pub is my home for ANY self-published article, so not all of them are diaries but you’ll spot the ones that are!

a. Daily wisdom and gratitude

I Failed to Live Up to My Expectations Today: But I read, wrote, worked out, and called my best friend (4 wisdoms I remembered that day)

It Is a Miracle to Be as Functional as I Am Today: Watch what you do that’s light-years ahead of last year

Critique October With Me and Get Pumped for November: This one was a month to remember

b. Daily vegan life (food focus)

Make Your Own Vegan Guide and Resource Lists as a Fun Way to Master the Lifestyle: I read Nina Gheihman’s guide today and — spoiler alert — it was awesome

I’m the Color Monster and Everything I Ate Today Was Orange: I lived in a small, cozy, kindly world and had fun with fall foods

I Celebrated the Fallen Pumpkin With an ASMR “Meditation”: Another day in the life of an eccentric vegan zombie

Cooking Simple Plant Food for Myself Gets Lonely, But I Celebrate Why: To make things fun, for one day I only used green-color ingredients

c. Daily vegan life (animals and people)

6 Reasons I’m Happy for Animals Who Are NOT in Zoos: Today I scrubbed the floor; then I scrubbed my brain with reading

I Woke Up to a Dead Spider: The death reminded me to celebrate life and be compassionate

I Thought About My Throat Chakra and it Helped Me Listen to Ex-Vegans: When I accept experiences that differ from mine, I have an easier time speaking up for animals

d. Journaling prompts

7 Things I’m Embarrassed I Did Yesterday: And 8 things I feel accomplished for having done

What Makes You Mad? How Should the World Be Different?: This can be a good place to start. For me, it’s not the finish.

5 Questions I’ll Ask Myself in My Loving-Kindness Diary: Every day is filled with fascinating moments when you look more closely

e. Action prompts and dares

4 Simple Things I Triple-Dog-Dare You to Do: #3. I dare you to read something by an Indigenous author

To Be a Better Spokesperson for a Cause, Slow Down Your Reading Sometimes: For me, slow reading = deep empathy, and empathy is like an activity’s push-ups

f. Mental health days (sharing the struggle)

I’m Giving Myself One Month to Improve My Anxiety and Depression: If nothing changes, I’ll find a therapist or support group

Dear Diary, I Wish I Could Be Everyone’s Best Friend: I wish I knew exactly what to do and say to make them all happy

13 Loving-Kind Thoughts to Soothe My Minor Mental Health Crisis: To feel better, I turn inner woes into gratitude for others’ happiness

g. Zany experiments with chakras

The Diary of a Chakra Fan Who Should Probably Meditate More: Every day of the week was dedicated to a chakra. Here’s my update on how it went.

For Root Chakra Day, I Cleaned the Floor and Slept on it Too: The things a silly transgender girl does to keep herself entertained

The Terribly Absentminded Trans Girl Seeks Revenge for Her 7 Chakras: Time to cast “Alohomora” on every one of my energy centers

h. Relationship hopes, relationship hiccups

Happy New Year, Future Boyfriend: And happy 2021 too to anyone else who reads this — I heart you also

Today, a Thought-Provoking Article Made Me Questions My Honor in Relationships: Avoid being a Regrettable Ryan. Be a Melt-Your-Heart Mike.

I Broke Up With My ASMR Boyfriend and I Missed Him Immediately: Then I had a cruel dream where I ALMOST dated Wilmer Valderrama

i. A day in the life of a writer

I Stopped Mocking Myself for a Day and the Results Were Amazing: I was able to think straight and I pitched to 5 publications (on the shortcomings of comedic self-deprecation)

The Most Boring Diary Post I Could Muster: In less than an hour, and of that, this overthinker is proud

I Wanted to Write 6 Articles Today and Made It to 3: And now I’m putting you in a coma by journaling about it

Brave the Writer’s Torture Chamber, for It Could Be Your Last Chance: And 1 more thing I realized on Tuesday the 13th

How to Make Computer Time Memorable With the Pomodoro Technique: 4 colorful ways I spiced up my writing weekend

j. Accountability through a blog/diary

What if the Whole World Knew How You Spent the Day?: My diary is now property of the internet

My Diary Is a Tough-Love Coach Who Beckons Me to Sweat: I haven’t pushed my limits lately, but I can change now (balance ease/relaxation & challenge)

How to Make Your Diary Worth Sharing: Even if all you did today was chores, Facebook, eat rice, and watch detective shows (ideas for how to turn more of your private words into public words)

5 Fascinating Fish Facts That Hooked Me on Reading: And 10 reasons to read, live, and blog about love (post #1 where I laid out my intentions for the public diary)

7. MY 100-DAY SOCIAL COURAGE CHALLENGE

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In fall 2021, my public diary became specifically about courage. I started doing at least one thing each day that was out of my comfort zone,

Each night I ask myself, “What is the most important thing I could do tomorrow to move my life forward, that I might not otherwise do and that will take a modest amount of courage?”

a. Preparation for the challenge

I’m Practicing and Preparing for 100 Days of Social Courage: I would do something socially daring every day and blog about it. Should I do it?

I’m Bridging the Gap Between My Friendships and My Secret Life as a Writer: A day in the life of Phoenix, a sensitive online scribe

b. General lessons learned

What I Am Learning From My Social Courage Challenge: 7 lessons I ponder as I sit on my pink owl blanket and plot to fly

c. Online social courage

I’m Avoidant About Checking Replies, So I Challenged Myself to a Race: Day 5 of My Social Courage Challenge (Harry Potter theme)

How Often Do You Interact With People Who Rejected You, But Who You Still Admire?: On Day 6 of my Social Courage Challenge, I worked on finding that balance

d. Courage in dating

My Online Dating Hack Is to Count the Genuine Compliments I Give: On Day 8 of my Courage Challenge, I complimented 16 guys

e. Creative courage

Underpaid Bloggers, I Have a Dare For You: Spend more time reading publications that will pay you

On the 1st Day of Courage, I Watched an Old Video of Me: Being at peace with my past creative self helps me create better today

f. Financial courage

Playing With Money Is So Much Fun I Think I Want to Cry: I’m a 28-year-old child who finally has a buddy to talk with about financial life

8. MISCELLANEOUS FUN

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Woohoo! You’ve almost made it to the end of my exhaustively long writing portfolio. Here goes all the stuff that didn’t fit into any other section. Love you, bae!

a. Family stories

7 Ways My Father Greg Inspires Me: He sacrificed, he supported, and he always mantained a great sense of Huber.

Loving a Dog Sealed the Deal on My Animal Activism: Her name was Cloe. She loved chasing cars and playing in the snow.

My Mom Let Me Go Vegetarian: She wasn’t sure if she had done the right thing, but her choice became one of the greatest gifts I’ve ever received

Once Upon a Fairy Stepmother: When wonderful supermoms die, sometimes you get lucky with an amazing fairy stepmother

b. Celebration of culture

6 Animal And Eco-Themed Holidays To Celebrate This Year (disclaimer: I totally dropped the ball and have not celebrated any of them lol)

5 American Norms My Friends From India Made Me Reconsider: #3. Living with your parents at 27 is not the joke I thought it was

c. Trivia game

Who Wants to Be an Animal Genius? You’re just 15 animal science and behavior questions away from 1,000,000 doggie-themed postage stamps!

d. Philosophy, happiness, and questions about life

I Struggled to Get the Buddhist Distinction of Pleasure vs. Happiness: What is happiness if not many moments of pleasure?

e. Beauty and style

The Easy Way I Got Blonde, Natural Highlights At Home (Sans Beach Days or Salon Trips)

f. Fiction (playwriting)

“Candid Café” — The Cheesy Vegan Comedy Play I Wrote in College: You’ll love the heated debate between Noah and Huberto (will you?) (over 6,500 words)

g. Language learning

14 Funny Things I Do to Master Spanish: Slowly, humorously let a new language overtake your life.

h. A reflection on COVID-19 misinformation

A Transphobic Conspiracy Theory Prepared Me to Beware COVID-19 Misinformation: I’m careful now not to let erroneous beliefs infect my brain.

i. Things I wrote years ago before I was on Medium

Single People, Stop Trying to Get in a Relationship With a Statue: It’s not about who people are—it’s about the memories we share

When I Was 24, I Started Writing a Book of All My Secrets: What I desperately wished I could say to the world

j. Hannah Montana parody song for struggling writers

Mona Arizona Performs Her Latest Hit, “No Writer’s Perfect!”: How y’all doin’ tonight?

k. My “trophy cabinet” of standout articles

My most popular trans piece and #1 most widely read article:
They Didn’t Know I Was a Transgender Girl: 6 funny things folks said to me when they had no freaking clue about my gender

My most widely clicked article:
Sometimes It’s Good to Reject Your Rejectors: Clinging to people who don’t like you is like keeping moldy oranges in your fruit basket — chuck ’em in the compost!

Highest read percentage (readers could not click away):
I Feel Compassion for My Sexual Assaulter: Forgiveness is like a green smoothie for my soul

My most criticized article:
The Word ‘Houseless’ Made Me Rethink Perceptions of Homeless People: I was without a house when I lived in my car. I still don’t know what it’s like to have neither.

My least read or cared about article (16 lifetime views after 1 year):
Why I Am an “Ajerkist”: Who doesn’t believe anyone’s a jerk.

I still loved writing it anyway. :)

9. ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

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I’ll save this section for a future About Me story. The acknowledgments would be better received in a short article instead of at the end of a novel like this one, haha. Plus, I’ll have even more people to thank later on. :)

But I had already chosen the photo. I didn’t want to have to get rid of the cute, happy person standing in the sun. 😊

I am wishing you an enjoyable day and night that make you smile.

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Phoenix Huber
Phoenix Huber

Written by Phoenix Huber

Animal advocate. Personal coach for highly sensitive heroes, here to help marginalized or misunderstood people feel magical.

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