Such an excellent contrarian article; my generation needs to read this! I hope this goes viral. I also may be sharing it with my dating groups on facebook as a discussion starter.

Some of my takeaways:

1. Think of dating as something you do AFTER a lasting relationship has already been built.

2. Spending time around each others' friends is an important way to gauge compatibility. This motivates me to make my friend network something I'm proud of.

3. Looking for a date biases a person to be too focused on chemistry, which makes you overlook incompatibilities on the friendship side.

4. When looking for a date, people tend to choose people who seem familiar, even if the familiar includes unhealthy patterns. If people focus on building friendships with diverse people, they'll have a chance to meet healthy people who balance them out.