I hear how offputting it is as a disabled person when you get catcall comments that are fetishizing your disability. It sounded so upsetting to put all these educational videos out there and then to have people put them to an unwanted sexual use. Yikes, I feel your pain in this disturbing situation!

I don’t know what it’s like to be disabled. I am transgender, so that is another conventionally “less attractive” thing that is sometimes fetishized. In our case, I believe the devotees are called “admirers” or “chasers.”

I have been trying to embrace the people who have a particular attraction towards transgender women. I don’t want to push away people who are actually attracted to me — when so much of mainstream society would refuse to date me. But I want to find the healthy, mature, respectful trans admirers only. I wrote about it in one of the first things I put on Medium, called something like “Are You Being Objectified, or Are You Guarded Around Love.” I wonder how you would feel about what I wrote there.